"When we are faced with a very difficult situation we have a choice: we can either be resentful, trying to find somebody or something to blame for the hardships, or we can face the challenge and grow. The flower shows us the way, as its passion for life leads it out of the darkness and into the light. There is no point fighting against the challenges of life, or trying to avoid or deny them. They are there, and if the seed is to become the flower we must go through them. Be courageous enough to grow into the flower you are meant to be." - OSHO Zen Tarot -
We grow conditioned. Our mind grows that way, and we live thinking that what was taught to us is mostly all that is. Manners, behaviors, reasoning, explanations, excuses, this is all learned material. If we bring some attention to it, we'd see ourselves repeating the same old patterns many times in our life and in different occasions. Our growth as consciousness requires challenges and an open mind, so sometimes we are faced with situations that has so much hold on us, and we feel them as so important, that we can not do anything else, but face our limitations. We face that wall that does not allow us to move forward. Whatever we consider relevant for our growth will bring that challenges. Might be a relationship, work, family issues, properties, a death, anything. And there we have a great chance to choose who are we going to be next. That choice requires courage. To face our biggest limitations takes courage. Takes courage to speak our truth, when we fear to be abandoned or judged. Takes courage to set our boundaries, when all we were taught to do was to be at complete disposal of someone out of the fear of not being loved. Takes courage to leave an unhealthy relationship, when our greatest fear is loneliness. And I'm sure you can find in yourself other examples, as we all go through the same challenges, sooner or later.
All these situations mostly requires us to act in a way we are unfamiliar with. It requires us to act in a way we know nothing about and still somehow feels true to us, it requires us to move into the unknown. We are faced with the choice of trusting our longing for life and love and growth and truth and guidance. To trust our inner takes great courage in spite of every outside voice that speaks just the way around.
Cour means heart, the center of our being and courageous is the one who acts out of it.